If you’re in a relationship, you know that there are countless ups and downs. Loving someone is not always easy, but IT IS ALWAYS WORTH IT.
Fights may happen, issues may arise, and I know for me that’s when it feels like I could use advice the most. Because it’s easy to love when you’re happy, but it’s a whole other task when you’re not.
I’ve officially been in a relationship for over two years and am still head over heals in love. I wanted to share my top tips for when conflict arises in your relationship.
Y'all VS. The Problem
When issues arise, the first thing you and your significant other must remember is that it is you and him against the problem. As easy as it can be to start to get frustrated with each other, take a beat and remember you’re in this together. It’s okay to have different opinions and sides on the problem at hand but don’t let that turn into anger with the person you love. If you recognize this small little detail, fixing the issues will be ten times easier.
Listen to Each Other
Hear each other out. Don’t interrupt, do make them feel heard. It can be extremely upsetting when you feel like the other person doesn’t understand what you’re trying to express to them. Let each other express how you feel, so you can work together on a solution to solve both problems.
Patience is important. You must be patient in not only arguments but outside of them too. If you’re patient with your partner, chances are they will return the favor. It seems like an easy task to complete, but it’s much harder than it sounds. Practice patience every day so you’re ready when you need to patient in an argument.
Talk In Person
No matter where or when an issue may come up, you should do anything in your power to talk about the problem in person. When you’re texting and even calling there are so many opportunities for misunderstandings. Whatever the problem is, talking face to face is a must.
The Elephant In The Room
One of my biggest pet peeves is cutting an important talk short. If you’re in a fight or discussion with your partner, don’t leave until y’all can find some middle ground. No matter how frustrating it is you have to talk about issues to solve them. Don’t let anything linger. When a problem comes up, face it head on.
Love unconditionally. This is the absolute most important thing to do. If you are loving without limits, it’ll be so much easier to see past the issues and remember what you’re fighting for. So many couples get in fights and don’t think about what’s at risk. Those memories, moments, and most importantly the person sitting next to you are worth being a little more rational, understanding, and overall kind.
Fighting is normal but fight with honor. Be kind, patient, and loving and problems won’t even seem like problems anymore.